Pay attention!

Some of the saddest people right now are the people who are only waking up at the end of the year to realise how wasted their year has been.

Wasted because they spent all their time into pointing everything that was wrong in other people’s lives.

Wasted because they threw all their energy into trying to slow down people who were running towards their dreams, hoping they would catch some speed towards their own goals.

Driven by lust to see others stumble, they9 left their own posts to man other people’s stations.

Only now they are returning to realise how much they missed out on while they weren’t focusing on themselves. It is sad.

The time you spent laughing at somebody’s fall, that’s the time they were learning what it means to be resilient and standing up for what you believe in.

The time you spent going around singing “I told him/her so”, that is the time people were putting into learning from their errors.

People aren’t going to be condemned by your opinion, no matter how sharp and cutting you make it out to be.

People have learned to put their lives, and dreams, and goals, and hopes, first.

People have mastered the attitude of winners – the attitude that that says if they are going to get anywhere significant in their lives they cannot waste time wrestling with people who are insignificant to their purpose.

It must hurt to realise that what you thought was a plan to crush somebody down was actually the push they needed to get up and get going.

It must hurt to realise that the gossip you thought was set to derail somebody actually became the anchor that spurred him on.

It must hurt to realise that it was your hate, and jealousy, and twisted attitude that helped build a champion out of somebody you were convinced was a loser.

It takes a truly great person to step out of the hurt and disappointment of missing out on opportunities they thought they could never have again and go get something even better.

It takes something special in somebody to lose over and over again but insist they are still good enough to fight.

You just can’t stand in the way of greatness when greatness wants its moment of shine in somebody’s life.

Just because somebody’s stuff doesn’t look together when they first make a try that doesn’t say anything about how spectacular it will look when they finally get it right.

That’s just some of the lessons some of us could have learned had we paid attention to our own life events. Life.

*By Christopher Mazibuko, used to write for this blog & now he’s got his spot:


Who matters most in life

Anybody can talk great about you when you’ve finally secured that corner office at the top floor and have enough credit to drag them along to the finer things of your level.

But it is not everybody who can insist on being part of your life when there is nothing desirable about it.

Showing up to take pictures on graduation day is the easy part. Showing up to extend support when somebody isn’t even sure if they will ever make to it to graduation is the test that puts all kinds of relationships into perspective.

An elaborate song of praise from somebody who was too busy to notice that your star would eventually rise is nothing compared to an odd word of encouragement you got from somebody who checked on your progress even when there was a no progress to talk about.

It is the people who talk about your bigness long before you even strike a hand at anything that remind you just what it means to be within a genuine company.

It is the people who fuel you up to speed even when they don’t understand the direction you’re moving towards who shed light on what the difference is between a friendship and a hang-out-crowd.

The truth is that sooner or later every attempt, every effort, and every hope we put into our deepest desires will yield the fairest results. But not everybody can wait with you.

When you have found people who can easily move along to the next best thing but insist on sticking around to see you turn you worst challenges into your best thing – you have found a beautiful thing. When you have found people willing to hang on and resuscitate what may appear to be your dead dreams to everybody else – you have found a beautiful thing.

The people who go out of their way to stand with you when you are nowhere near your best are the people who deserve of all you when something starts going your way.

*By Chris Mazibuko, he used to write for this blog & now you can follow him on :

Her Oasis

Hi, Welcome to Her Oasis – A place where a young woman will be moved from shame to honor.

Your dignity will be restored through the word and activities that will require you to work on yourself.

This project is partnered with Sane Womans Network movement, and bookclubs across the townships in Gauteng to build a well-read community of young girls.

This platform will allow you to participate and dialogue the topics that affect women at large.IMG-20170109-WA0010.jpg